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No One Listens!

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Happy Mother’s Days loves!

    Today we honor and appreciate you. I am so fortunate to be surrounded by a tribe of awesome  mothers who inspire me everyday. Many of  you coming from different walks in life yet all have the same goal to be the best mother you can be to your child/children. To raise respectful, loving and intelligent children( I know there is more but these 3 are the first that came to mind lol). To provide a stable and healthy home life. I thank you for showing that you can be a mother and also have a life. It was always thought when you become a mother your life is over. Many of you have shown me that being a mother is life altering but your life is not over. Cheers to each of you. 

If you are new to this blog you may not know that my mommy passed away in October of 2015. I briefly talk about it but never dedicated a whole blog post to it. For one it was too painful and I did not want to anyone to be sad.  I hardly discuss my feelings out loud because I truly believe no one really cares and barely listens. This is actually the purpose of the post today because I sometimes feel like no one listens to me when I speak. I mean many of you hear me but actual listen….not so much. A perfect example of this is what happened early today.

I woke up feeling ok. I told myself ” Shyla you aren’t going to cry this year. You got this. Be productive and keep your mind busy. If you happen to have a few tears fall its ok. Wipe them and keep going. NO FULL OUT CRYING SESSION!!!”  Yes I said that to myself ….crazy huh. Well as I was getting myself together…I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts….Fav Baby Mama( check out when you get a chance)…I received a notification from Facebook. My ex left a message on my wall. I thought it was odd considering he never leaves public messages…always in the inbox lol. Anywho…the message said and I quote…

” You’re on my mind knowing this is your first Mothers Day without her!

                           Stay in prayer and uplift his name for comfort!’

Now don’t get me wrong I do appreciate him thinking about me. I truly do. Everyone is busy and to be thought of is a beautiful thing but on the other hand this reinforced what I know…..NO ONE LISTENS TO ME!!. Dude how could you not know this is not my first mothers day without my mom!!!! I inboxed you, you responded with giving me your new number and told me to call you asap. I called, we talked, gave you the info of the arrangements everything. How could he not remember that. I mean we even talk after that. He was trying to rekindled what we had. Early this year being the most recent time. When I saw that…I lost it. I cried so hard not because I thought he should remember but because he did not listen to comprehend. He heard my lips moving heard a few details and didn’t remember the rest. Knowing that hurt me to the core yet he isn’t the only one. I see with my own eyes when I speak that some people arent listening just hearing my voice. Saying the occasional ” yeah” and ” okay” in the appropriate spots. Things like that can drive a person crazy and is the driving force why many go to therapy instead venting to friends and love ones. People would rather pay to have someone listens to them than to have someone pretend to. However, after writing this I  also realize that I have been that person as well. I am here to say that I  apologize. I said all this to say for those who feels like no one is listening… I understand…I been there and with some I am still there. If you can get a therapist who will listen without judgment and will keep notes lol. Everyone should have a person they can pour their heart out to and know that they are listening.

 

Sincerely,

Shyla

 

 

 

My Thoughts On 2016.

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Happy 2017 my dearest loves. I am so sorry for the long break from blogging. I will be quite honest, I was extremely busy between school and work and just did not make the time. Well I am back now and ready to do a small 2016 review.

* Clears throat*…. 2016 was a very difficult year for me emotionally.I truly was all over the place. I did not know my up from down. I would be ok and just bust out crying. It had been too many time when I had to stop working to cry. If you didn’t know my mommy passed away late 2015. It was unexpected and shook my entire existence. I am honestly still ” not right” because of it but I’m striving each day to just make it throughout the day without having a crying fit. Now you understand why emotionally I was just not myself and it has been a journey to try to find my ” new normal”. I have not found it but with time I know it will come.

This year has also showed me that I am stronger than I ever imagine. I never thought I was a strong person but it wasn’t until the deaths of my uncle and my mommy 6 days from each other I know I had to try to be. Nothing prepares you for all the emotions you will experience after losing someone you love. However, I will encourage anyone who lost someone do not run from your feelings. Cry, shout, scream, yell, get those emotions out. Talk to someone whether it be a friend, family or a therapist. When I was having the hardest time which was this past summer.I decided to see a therapist. We did not have many sessions because of my schedule however, when I did talk to her it help me tremendously. She made me feel ok for feeling how I was feeling. I was on the brink of everything falling apart but those few sessions pulled me back together. I plan to seek out another therapist because I believe that there are a few more things in my life that can be worked out.

I did some traveling. I went to Chicago, Miami, Bahamas, Ohio and Negril, Jamaica. Do not worry I plan to blog about Jamaica because it was the best trip I took to date. These trips were just what I needed. Each of the trips I have taken gave me a peace that I was seeking that I would not of experience without having them.

In all my 2016 was not all that exciting but it was an experience. I learn so much about myself and those around me. I have a great circle of people who I love and trust and vice-versa.  My goal for 2017 is to not live in fear. My mother death cause me to be fearful. I was secretly moving different because of that. I cannot do that any longer. I going to be fearless for 2017. I am going to step out on faith in areas I am petrified. I ready for the next chapter and plan to make it a great one. I hope each of you do the same. #BeFearless2017

Sincerely,

Shyla

FAMILY IS EVERYTHING!

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HAPPY FOURTH OF JULY LOVES!

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I hope each of you are enjoying the holiday with the ones you love while eating good food.

My family and I decided to visit our relatives on my maternal grandmother side for the holiday.

.After many years of discussing going to visit we finally made it a plan in February to visit this weekend .

Man when I tell you I’m so glad we did! Those few days with them meant so much.

Mainly because we only would see each other during the time a family member has went on to glory.

I know that this is many families story but I’m glad we decided to try get away from that and see each other. Here is a few pictures of our visit.

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MY COUSIN BILLIE AND I

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THE BEST PICTURE OF THE TRIP WAS MY TWO OLDER COUSINS BILLIE AND PAULA EMBRACING EACH OTHER AS THEY PREPARED TO LEAVE.

THAT MOMENT IS WHAT THIS VISIT WAS ALL ABOUT! FAMILY SEEING OTHER AND LOVING ON ONE ANOTHER!

I HAVE NO IDEA THE LAST TIME THEY SEEN EACH BUT IM GLAD THE FAMILY DECIDED TO MAKE THIS TRIP!

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FAMILY IS EVERYTHING LOVES AND I HOPE YOU ALL ARE ENJOYING YOURS WHILE YOU STILL CAN!

FROM MY FAMILY TO YOURS HAPPY FOURTH OF JULY!!!!

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SINCERELY,

SHYLA.

 

P.S. I can now be reached by email Sincerlyshyla@gmail.com. The email can be used for business inquiries, blog topics as well advice I am here to answer any questions you may have.Be Blessed.

Be Faithful During Your Storm!

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I remember back in 2010 when I was in a situation where I was fed up. I was so frustrated and was at my wit’s end. I remember talking to one of my best friends Keitaya literally in tears. I explain to her everything that was going on. I told her because of this situation I had to drop out of school. It was very bad. Although no one around me actually knew that because I put on a smile when everyone saw me. At the end I said” I have to leave here” and I knew if I stayed I wouldn’t bring my best to the table. After I pour my frustrations out on her she later gave me a scripture. 

DANIEL 10:12 NIV. THEN HE CONTINUED , DO NOT BE AFRAID, DANIEL. SINCE THE FIRST DAY THAT YOU SET YOUR MIND TO GAIN UNDERSTANDING, AND TO HUMBLE YOURSELF BEFORE YOUR GOD, YOUR WORDS WERE HEARD AND I HAVE COME IN RESPONSE TO THEM.

That scripture spoke to my soul. It reassure me that my prayer had been heard and now it time to wait on God. After she gave me that scripture I typed it up, printed it out and put it on the busiest place in my home…the fridge door lol. From that point on I stop complaining even though I was still hurting. I would leave physically and emotionally spent every time I walked in the door at home. However,I still remain faithful. I still did everything that was required of me not just because I knew in my spirit I was leaving I did because I should.  I truly believed that is why in a few months time after getting that scripture I received a notice that I was being released and will be soon leaving. On that day I jumped for joy. I knew it was nothing but God and me being faithful during my storm. I encourage anyone who are going through similar circumstances to remain FAITHFUL.  God looks for that. 

MATTHEW 25:23 NIV HIS MASTER REPLIED ” WELL DONE, GOOD AND FAITHFUL SERVANT! YOU HAVE BEEN FAITHFUL WITH A FEW THINGS, I WILL PUT YOU IN CHARGE OF MANY THINGS. COME AND SHARE YOUR MASTER’S HAPPINESS!’

 

That experience showed in many ways that God does hear our prayers he is just waiting to see if you will remain faithful to him and other things until he blesses you with more.  Be encouraged my loves as well as faithful.

 

Sincerely,

Shyla

 

Time Waits For No One!!!!

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Hello there love bugs. It has been over a year and a half since I have written anything on the blog.

I will say a lot has happen since then. One that tops the list is my angel, my heart my everything,

my mommy passed away late October. In time I will blog about that whole deal but right now its

just to hurtful. Now what prompt me to write this was social media. You got that right.

The Facebook or what we call it now just “Facebook”. Facebook now has this awesome app or tool

where it shows you what you may have written or posted on that day years ago.I actually love it.

It showed me my thought process in the past. I could look at an old status and knew automatically

what was going on and what I felt when I posted it. So the other day I checked it and I had a post

about one of my favorite shows…Scandal. I I look at it like wow  That was 3 years ago? 

I couldn’t believe it. I was seriously  tripping that had happen 3 years ago and it seemed like

yesterday. When I realize that it was 3 years ago I started to be sad. At that very moment I felt so disappointed in myself.

I let 3 years easily pass me by and I feel I feel like I have nothing to show for it.

I felt like I wasted 3 precious years making sure I was all caught on my television shows.                                                  

SERIOUSLY HOW DID I LET 3 YEARS PASS ME BY WITHOUT ACCOMPLISHING ANYTHING SIGNIFICANT!!!!

Now I  have grown mentally and spiritually but others things I wanted to do I havent even attempted to complete. My educationally goals for one. I have one degree  but my desire is to obtain at least 2 more. When I kept thinking I truly realize that  …………………….                                            

                                                   TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE!!!!!

If any of you want to do something in life strive to make it happened.

It’s good to wait to everything to line up but what if it never does and you never tried and look back with regret.

When you tried and failed you can at least say to yourself that I went after it and it didn’t work out.

Today I am going after everything I want out of life. The career, the education…all the goals I set for myself years ago I going after it now.

I hope each of you do the same. It time to claim what is OURS!!!!!  

Sincerely,

Shyla