friendships

CHECK ON YOUR PEOPLE!

Posted on by SHY


Hello Loves, how was your  Father’s Day? My sisters and I had a grand time with our father yesterday. I feel very blessed to have my father here. We haven’t always had the best relationship but we continue to work on it and that is what really matters. This  blog entry is something that has been nagging at me for a few weeks now. I wasn’t going to blog about it because this really has been run into the ground but it needs to be said.

The last month or so my community has suffered a lot of deaths. Some from violence, some from illness and others self-inflicted. When these kind of things happened we all usually say the same thing like ” Tell your people you love them while they are still here” this phrase is the most popular. Another one that is beginning to become popular is ” Check on your people!” This  phrase I believe comes from the recent suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, two wealthy and seemingly happy individuals. There has been a lot a speculation on why they decided to take their own lives so I will not touch on that however I will asked you ” When is the last time you checked on your people?”

When was the last time you called a friend for no reason at all but just to see how they are doing?

When was the last time you offered a hand to a friend who is in need without being asked?

When was the last time you sent a text message saying ” I love you” without being prompted by something happening?

When was the last time you called to be a listening ear? No judgements, no comments…strictly to listen.

I think many of us (myself included ) are guilty of  not checking up on our people. We have to do better! Do not let the excuse of “well they do not check up me “stop you from checking up on them. Life has shown me that the only thing that matter is how we treat others and what we are doing in the present moment. The past is the past and we have to strive to be better people for the future. Check up on your people loves! You may make their day when you do!

 

Sincerely,

Shyla

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

EVERYONE HAS THE SAME 24 HOURS

Posted on by SHY


Hey there my beautiful loves. I am not going to beat around the bush…..yes everyone has the same 24 hours and we make time for what we feel are important.

Now you may asked what made me think of this. Well it is something that kept occurring or shall I say KEEP OCCURRING in my personal life.

So last week I text someone a nice and friendly ” Good Morning” as I was getting ready for work. Now between certain hours of the day I can be extremely busy when I am not able to check my messages.

Now that day a few hours had passed before I got the chance to check my messages and when I did there was not reply message.  

This is not new( me not getting a timely response) and any other day or maybe if it was someone else it probably would not of bothered me so much but today….honey….that irritated me!!!!

Later that evening I decided ….” what the hay..I will just call and see if we can chit-chat for a few minutes that may be a better method of communications.”

I called and the phone rang until voicemail came on. Now again like I stated earlier this action was not new. I am not always able to get a response from this individual in a timely manner. I do understand we have stuff going on.

Work, school, children, family as well as activities so I understand that everyone is busy. However, TOOOOODDDAAAAY the lack of acknowledgment irritated my soul. Really is it too much to asked for a reply to a simple ” Good Morning” text?

It is too much to asked for a call back just to say  ” Hey I got your message and missed your call but I was extremely busy at those times. I will call you back when I am free.” Please let me know if this is too much and that my expectations are too high.When I got home that evening and really thought about it. It cause me to write this blog entry.  

                  EVERYONE HAS THE SAME 24 HOURS.

                             POINT. BLANK. PERIOD.

In those 24 hours we do what we deemed to be important . This can cover a spectrum of things. In relationships we know communications and time spent are key components to a great relationship. Relationships that lack communications have a hard time succeeding .

That is why it is so important . I do not think anyone should go multiple days without talking to their mate. To be honest what man is going to allow a few days to pass without speaking to you. Most will be too afraid to let another man slide in and lose you. Because of that fact he will constantly text, call and visit you to let you know they are serious. 

Friendships are sort of the same way. Friends do not to have to talk everyday for the love to be there. However, the bond may be stronger if you do. I said all this to say that people make time for who and what they deemed important. Sometimes, I am sorry to say it may not include you. If it doesn’t chuck it up as a loss and keep pushing. We should never have to beg or pressure someone to make time for us especially when their actions show they really do not want to .In the meantime make sure you are making time for your loved ones. Invite them out. Send them a gift. You will be surprised how happy you will make them feel by showing them that you care. We all have the same 24 hours so lets spend it wisely.

Sincerely,

Shyla