The Dreaded Question.

wedding1The summer is almost here loves and of course love is in full bloom.

This is the season where many of us get wedding announcements or invites.

This is a very special time for many especially the bride and groom.

However, for a single gal like me it can be stressful.

It is not that I am not happy for  the  future Mr.and Mrs., it’s because I always get asked the dreaded question….


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Ok Let me be quite honest with you…THAT QUESTION IRRITATES MY SOUL!!

Mainly because it reminds me that I am indeed not married yet.

It also reminds me that I am childless and not married!!!!!


Because of that hearing that darn gone question all the time it actually hits a sour spot in me.

I guess the reason is because this is not how I envision my life. 

I pictured myself being happily married with kids and a booming career.

We are living in a nice size house which hosts many holidays functions as well as barbecues.

I imagine my honey and I taking couple trips around the world a few times out the year to keep our marriage spicy(wink).

Of course a few family trips so the chicadees wouldn’t feel left out.

I had this elaborate dream on how I wanted my family life to look and its so far from it.

I do know our plan and Gods plan can differ drastically and sometimes we can mess up our future by mistakes and bad choices.

However, I often ponder did I miss out on my happily ever after chasing what I thought it was?


Did I not chose my husband because he was not what I picture him to be or am I dealing with men who are currently blocking him from claiming his spot?

All these thoughts have come in to my head as well as the bigger question….



I mean I do think I am an awesome woman.

A good catch for any man but truthfully if I am all that…again….WHY AM I SINGLE!?

So when I get asked the question ” Shyla why aren’t you married yet and what are you waiting on” it hits me to my core.

It’s a personal struggle I deal with daily because it is something I yearn and desire.

So if you are one of the individuals who like to asked single ladies why aren’t they married yet be mindful that is could well be a touchy subject to them.

Some of us are trying to do the right thing by not settling and making sure that we chose the right partner.

For some they get their happily ever after early in life while others like me we  get asked this question often until we do.