The Dreaded Question.

wedding1The summer is almost here loves and of course love is in full bloom.

This is the season where many of us get wedding announcements or invites.

This is a very special time for many especially the bride and groom.

However, for a single gal like me it can be stressful.

It is not that I am not happy for  the  future Mr.and Mrs., it’s because I always get asked the dreaded question….


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Ok Let me be quite honest with you…THAT QUESTION IRRITATES MY SOUL!!

Mainly because it reminds me that I am indeed not married yet.

It also reminds me that I am childless and not married!!!!!


Because of that hearing that darn gone question all the time it actually hits a sour spot in me.

I guess the reason is because this is not how I envision my life. 

I pictured myself being happily married with kids and a booming career.

We are living in a nice size house which hosts many holidays functions as well as barbecues.

I imagine my honey and I taking couple trips around the world a few times out the year to keep our marriage spicy(wink).

Of course a few family trips so the chicadees wouldn’t feel left out.

I had this elaborate dream on how I wanted my family life to look and its so far from it.

I do know our plan and Gods plan can differ drastically and sometimes we can mess up our future by mistakes and bad choices.

However, I often ponder did I miss out on my happily ever after chasing what I thought it was?


Did I not chose my husband because he was not what I picture him to be or am I dealing with men who are currently blocking him from claiming his spot?

All these thoughts have come in to my head as well as the bigger question….



I mean I do think I am an awesome woman.

A good catch for any man but truthfully if I am all that…again….WHY AM I SINGLE!?

So when I get asked the question ” Shyla why aren’t you married yet and what are you waiting on” it hits me to my core.

It’s a personal struggle I deal with daily because it is something I yearn and desire.

So if you are one of the individuals who like to asked single ladies why aren’t they married yet be mindful that is could well be a touchy subject to them.

Some of us are trying to do the right thing by not settling and making sure that we chose the right partner.

For some they get their happily ever after early in life while others like me we  get asked this question often until we do.



What Dreams May Come…..


selfie with the beautiful beach as my backdrop

Hello my loves. Let me first say that my thanksgiving was great. Anytime I get the chance to break bread with my beautiful family is a great day. I am thankful for that. Well a few weeks ago I went on the best vacation I have ever been on in my life. My cousin and I decided to travel to  Punta Cana, Dominican Republic. It was absolutely breathtaking. I mean that is the only way to describe how this country looks. Where we stayed was fabulous. Right of the white sand beach. I was less than 100 steps from the beach…. how convenient lol.


my view while relaxing on the beach


I been on many vacations but never a resort. For the first time I really felt relaxed. I didn’t have to hustle back to a hotel or see what we were doing for the day. I truly relaxed. It felt good to relaxed your mind where all you can hear is the ocean crash on the land over and over. It is has the most soothing sound.


walking along the beach


While on my trip I remember how I told a few people of my vacations plans and future vacations spots. Many of them stated…”That sounds great but that it something I would do with my mate”….hmmm. I can understand that to a certain extent. These places would be great couples vacations. I am sure lovers can appreciate and benefit from what these kind of vacations offer. I mean who wouldn’t want to travel with their boo. However, I am not going to let me not having a mate stop me from traveling  wherever I want to go.


outside of my room at the resort. I was ecstatic to be in such a beautiful place.


I also encourage each you to take on that mindset as well. Life is too short to wait on certain life events to happen for you to explore this beautiful world. This vacation was a dream come true. I couldn’t ask for a more perfect vacation. As I now make plans for next year adventure…..the beautiful country of Jamaica. I’ll do so without feeling bad or sad if by then I am still single.